Happy Holidays, Homies!

holidays I just wanted to wish my homies a happy and blessed holiday season! Thanks so much for following my blog! I pray that you guys have a fruitful, and amazing 2017!

Cheers, homies!


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The Music Tag

notes I saw this tag on YouTube and wanted to complete it.

1. Favorite bands or musician of the moment.

Soundgarden. Tool. Alice In Chains. However this list could change by later tonight. Lol.

2. The last song you listened to.

“Sleigh Ride” by The Carpenters

3. What’s in your cd player?

I don’t have one, but in my dvd/cd player is a Deftones mix cd that I made a few years back.

4. What was the last show you attended?

Soundgarden in 2011.

5. What show are you looking forward to?

Lord willing, Metallica, and PJ Harvey.

6. One artist you would love to see live.

Depeche Mode

7. Favorite movie soundtrack.

“Strange Days”, and “The Crow”.

8. Top 3 most played songs on ITunes.

Don’t have ITunes.

9. Most underrated artists.

Meshell Ndegeocello

10. Favorite albums.

Too damn many to list, but I’ll name a few. Soundgarden “Superunknown”, Alice In Chains “Dirt”, Prince “Purple Rain”, Deftones “Deftones”, Metallica “…And Justice For All”.

11. Favorite song lyric.

“I beg you my darling. Don’t leave me. I’m hurting.” PJ Harvey “Rid Of Me”.

12. Shows you’ve seen live.

Janet Jackson, Tool, Prince, Deftones, Jill Scott, Nine Inch Nails.

Cheers, homies.


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Zen Mode For 2017

peace I’ve learned plenty about myself this year. I care too much. I turn molehills into mountains. I care too much about what certain family members think. It’s time for me to start not giving a damn, and to ignore all the bullshit. My main goal for 2017 is to be in a Zen mode.

Cheers, homies!

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Friends Mean Well

buds This post was supposed to go up tomorrow, but I have a dentist appointment and have decided to type this out tonight. I’ve been doing great with these Blogmas posts! I’m quite proud of myself. The following post is a fun one, and it shouldn’t be taken seriously. 😀 Enjoy!

Where would we be without great friends? Over the years the dynamics of a few of my friendships have changed. Calls, visits, and hangout dates have be reduced to friendships that are maintained only through social media these days. It’s sad, but that’s life for ya.

Thankfully, I have a handful of bossome buds left. One homie in particular is a woman named Wendy. Wendy is freaking dope! She’s incredibly selfless, kind, supportive, and hella funny. I think it’s important to have a good sense of humor in these hot mess times. My homie has so many awesome attributes, but she’s also freaking hardheaded!

Let me explain a few things.

My single status is infamous amongst my inner circle. 😀 I’ve done posts about this in the past, there’s no need to go into full details about that subject. LOL. Although Winter is coming, and a sista would love a warm body to hold… dating isn’t a massive priority for me currently. My plate is already filled with other life matters, and I’m not trying to deal with drama, or bullshit from some new source. A sista is just trying to stay sane, ya dig?

Wendy isn’t letting the bullshit of life stop her. In fact she has herself a new boo! I’m happy for Wen because she deserves it! Unfortunately for me Wendy wants to freaking play matchmaker, and I’m not having it! I’m not taking the bait.

When she mentioned hooking me up with a pal of her boyfriend’s, I was like thanks, but no thanks. Did I mention that Wen and I live in different states? So because of that fact I sure as hell didn’t want her to set me up. I can’t do the long-distance thing. I prefer to have my significant other close because… hell, my appetite is ravenous, and when I want it I want it! So, yeah.

I thought she understood, but noooooo! Her hardheaded behind apparently told her new boo anyway about setting me up which equally annoyed me, and made me crack up.

She means well.

Her heart is in the right place.

Once again I had to tell Wen that I wasn’t interested  in her setting me up.

Lord, she means well, but hellz no!

I’m hoping that she moves on to the next single friend on her list. 😀

Cheers, homies!


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Ready For Fall

Fall  Summer can seriously kiss my ass because I’m so over it! These triple digit temperatures are cruel and unrelenting. The humidity has me wanting to repent at least every five seconds. And the bugs?! The bugs are total savages and belong in the darkest pits of hell. I’m an August baby, but I’ve never been fond of the summertime. In fact most Leos I know strongly hate the summer; a trait possibly inherited by our mothers who spent their last trimester suffering.

Fall is the most picturesque and gorgeous time of the year. Technically, Fall like temperatures doesn’t hit Texas until November, but whatever I’m still hyped. I love the way the leaves change colors, it’s so pretty. And feeling that cool, crisp air always puts a massive smile on my face. And who doesn’t love longer nights, and shorter days… I sure do!

Fall is such an amazing time to be creative. I plan to be very productive this Fall. I have all these new ideas for Fall themed stories. And during Fall is when all the great new novels are released. I can already see myself with a mug of Kahlua spiked hot chocolate, and a psychological thriller in my hands.

I pretty much wear Fall lipstick and nail colors year round, but it’s definitely even more special to rock those colors during my fav season. Rich wines, burgundies, deep purples, bold reds, I’m just ready to rock all those colors. As soon as the weather changes I’m busting out my boots, and turtlenecks, and it will be an amazing time. I live for my favorite pair of black boots.

The best candle scents come out for Fall. I’m ready to make a few candle purchases at Bath & Body Works, Target, and Wally-Mart. I love anything that has pumpkin waffles attached to it.

So what do you love about Fall? Let me know! Thanks for reading!

Cheers, homies!


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Mourning A Friendship

graves I feel as if I’m in mourning and I’m not digging it. A few weeks ago I had a falling out with one of my best friends. I admit that I’m really hurt behind all this. Hecks, this situation is just another brick in the wall of bs that has been 2016 so far. You never realize how large a presence someone has in your life… until you’re no longer speaking. Now, we have done this dance before; we would get into a huge fight, and all will get worked out. Something tells me that this time the demise of our friendship is final. This is someone I talked to on a daily basis, and saw often. I communicated with him more than anyone, and now that we’re not speaking I’m really feeling the sting, as of late.

Because I’m all about holding on to loved ones, I tried to reach out to my bud, but never received a response. 2016 has been a fairly dramatic year; a lot of unpleasant things have been happening. He was one of the first ones I would turn to whenever I was dealing with anything. In my heart I know I tried to make things right, and because of that I have to move past the situation. I don’t think the friendship can be salvaged, but I hope so. If not maybe this ending will be the catalyst for a new beginning. In the meantime, life has to go on.

Cheers, homies.

Alternative Black Girl Tag

The Alternative Black Girl Tag was created by one of my fav YouTubers, RyMingTahn (pronounced Remington). The tag was started to celebrate the uniquely original black women of the world; the ones who are often overlooked. We are sistas who are free-spirited, rock wild hair colors, we tend to be unconventional, and listen to all genres of music. Of course there’s more to it than my description, but you get the idea. I may not have the “alternative” look, but I totally am someone who marches to the beat of my own drum. I don’t have a YouTube channel, so I decided to just post this tag on the blogy blog.

1. How did you know that you were different?

I’ve known I was different since I was five. I’ve always been into things that others weren’t. I just had this feeling that I wasn’t like everyone else.

2. Do people judge you?

In high school my “blackness” was questioned because I rocked Metallica shirts. Being judged now on my alternativeness isn’t so much of an issue.

3. What does your family think?

My immediate family don’t really care, but my distant relatives seem to think I’m odd.

4. How do you stay true to yourself?

I do whatever is in my heart to do. No matter what I have to be me.

5. Who and what inspires you?

Any individual who lives life on their own terms inspires me. I’m also heavily influenced by literature, music, art, spirituality, and philosophy. More than anything though the message of love from Jesus is inspiring; and I’m trying to love others the way he loves.

6. What does your significant other think?

I’m single now, but I’m sure my future mate would appreciate my uniqueness.

This was really fun to do. I hope RyMingTahn comes out with a part two. 🙂

Cheers, homies!

Dick Pics And The End Of Romance

What in the hell is wrong with this world?! Are the available men being corrupted by aliens or something? I’m referring to men who love sending dick pics. I received a few pics last year and was grossed out every time. I don’t want to see a picture of a dick if I’m not leasing it. And I really don’t want to see any that are deformed, oddly colored, or let’s be honest, small.

What happened to courting and romance? I admit that I’m a HOPELESS ROMANTIC. I’ve been this way since forever. I blame damn daytime television for turning me out when I was little. I used to tell my Big Mama that I would grow up, marry a cop, and then I would have her over for steak dinners every Sunday. Of course she thought that was cute, but inside I bet she was praying to Jesus about my off self.

I read romance (of the erotic variety), and for the last few years I’ve been writing it as well. So, it really hurts my heart to see how nonexistent romance is. I’m going to do a longer blog on this subject soon.

Dick pics are replacing bouquets of roses as the number one item sent by men. Staring at those pictures does nothing for my lower region. I mean what do they expect us to say? How is someone supposed to respond after getting one?

I’m thirty-five, dang it! I’m too old to deal with bullshit of this variety. Cary Grant didn’t send dick pics; Billy Dee Williams didn’t either. Yeah, I know they didn’t have cell phones, but still. Where the heck is my distinguished gentleman? 😀

Can a sista get a love letter?

Cheers, homies!

Strange Dudes

   Norman  For reasons unknown strange dudes are really drawn to me. What? It’s not my fault… don’t give me that look. You know damn well what I’m talking about. I attract strange dudes and I’m upset about it. Complaining about being single is something I rarely do anymore. After all, who the hell wants to screw a Norman Bates type?Marion Crane Marion Crane just had a five minute conversation with Norman… and you see how that situation played out. Psycho is an extraordinary movie, by the way.

     Back in the day I gave my number to “Ray”, a man I met at Bible study. Surely there aren’t strange dudes at church. All the amazing men attend church services, right? LOL. Ray turned strange so fast that it made my head spin, like Linda Blair in The Exorcist. Ray was attracted because I was a virgin at the time. Soon as he found out that tidbit, I became a challenge for him. Ray would pop up at my job during his lunch break. He would just stare as I assisted customers. I was in my early twenties and working at The Gap. I became creeped out by Ray more and more. The fact that he expected my attention while I worked was freaking stupid. Eventually, we lost touch, but he has found me on Facebook. Damn you, social media!

     “Max” was a strange dude I met on the bus. Once he found out that I was into romantic gestures he did all he could to woo me. The fool threw pennies at my front door one time! Seriously! When I gave him my number I didn’t know his mom lived around the corner. I met him while riding the bus on the other side of town. Max got a new car and he started driving by my house. He could give a detailed report on when I left the house, and who came over to hang. Eventually, Max became obsessed with one of my best friends; thus ending the horrid ordeal. Oddly enough, he’s still really into her. 😀

     “Sam” is the current annoyingly strange dude. I really don’t want to go off on him because he’s nice. I met him back in the day, we lost contact, and he found me on Facebook. Facebook is the damn devil, I swear! Again, Sam is nice, but he has some strange tendencies. He is ALWAYS the first person to “like”, or comment on my Fb posts. He “likes” my posts before anyone else! Every. Single. Time. Damn! I like attention, but not in that way. I feel like I’m being Fb stalked in a sense. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I’m becoming irritated- beyond irritated.

     May 2016 be the year that I meet an amazing guy; with no issues, or hang ups!

     Cheers, homies! Happy New Year! God bless!